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All the People I Blame
Well, that’s a trick title. I blame no one. That’s because I have learned to respect the power of the first six years of our lives on how we experience the world. I am, to a degree greater than I ever realized, a product of my original emotional environment. So are my Siblings. So are… Continue reading
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Art
Sharing about their time together, my younger Son expressed his feelings about a visit to an art museum with his Brother. He specifically had strong feelings about interpreting the modern art pieces: “The artist is putting all of the work onto you!” my Son said. I laughed. Then, his statement set off a chain of… Continue reading
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“You don’t Suffer Fools”
Professionally, I have benefitted greatly from the Mentors who generously gave of their time, their experience, and in many cases I’m confident, they gave of their patience in my mentoring meetings with them. Through these Mentors, I have learned insights into organizational dynamics, the nature of leadership, the value of relationships, people’s capacity for organizational… Continue reading
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Let it Snow
It’s a rainy Wednesday morning reminding us it is September. Though it would be easier to stay at home on a rainy day, I had mentally and logistically prepared to go into the office. Having bought excellent rain gear for a March trip to London, the rain was not a good enough excuse to do… Continue reading
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Grief
“I sat with my anger long enough until she told me her real name was grief.” C.S. Lewis On first look, I am wholly unqualified to write about grief, grieving. I lack the formal education and credentials, and everyone biologically closest to me is alive. Fair enough! In my effort to loop back and revisit… Continue reading
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That Only Works in the English Language
I grew up speaking the Hungarian language and forced to pretend I was learning Russian. До свидания! I also inherited my Father’s appreciation of the German language, so I have been dabbling in the study of it my entire life. I love how the German language sounds, and its rules feel very familiar, as it… Continue reading
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For my Daughter
I have loved you since before your name was Baby A on a grainy ultrasound. Twenty-three years on, I love you even more. I was woefully ill-prepared for how to best serve you as your Mom, but my sincere intentions for you to grow your wings and my commitment to see you thrive never wavered.… Continue reading
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Joy as a Practice
“You don’t have to wait for something ‘meaningful’ to come into your life so that you can finally enjoy what you do. There is more meaning in joy than you will ever need. The ‘waiting to start living’ syndrome is one of the most common delusions of the unconscious state. The joy of Being, which… Continue reading
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Not Containable
I am nursing a pretty hefty disappointment at the moment, a useful funk to wade through. I know it’s necessary. I landed an interview for a position that would be the pinnacle of my career. I sought the expertise and precious time of trusted, generous mentors. I took days to prepare. …then I blew the… Continue reading
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Can’t Judge This
Following the instances I pass judgment and get on my high horse, the door of humility eventually hits me on my way out. These are just a handful of stories to illustrate some of my humbling realizations. My Sophomore year in college, I had an Engineering Calculus Professor who came to every class from August… Continue reading
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I am glad you are here. If this is the first time you are visiting this site, the following is a quick orientation. To read a single-perspective account of a Family’s complicated history from old Hungary to the highly-nuanced United States, please look for chapter numbering (zero to nine); the chapters build on one-another in numerical order. No chapter is meant to be a standalone one. There are also titles without a chapter designation; those are short writings about a broad range of seemingly random topics. Thank You for arriving with lovingkindness.
One More Perspective 