One More Perspective
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The Physics of Compliance
I had a tough weekend and it simply continues. I thought I was ready for some LGBTQ community socializing in a no-pressure environment and as it turns out, I was absolutely not. …and that threw me into the deep end. Instead of taking advantage of some organic opportunities to make new friends, I did not… Continue reading
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Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind
I discovered a movie today I found jolting. It was made in 2004, the year I was first introduced to Imago Relationship Therapy. This movie may just be the best illustration of the Imago concepts, but with an added criticality. Most stories or movies, sitcoms, and even songs have characters that are easily identifiable as… Continue reading
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The Transformer
In the LGBTQ community, the out women tend to fashion their exterior to match their desired interior. It’s a way to communicate with the world about themselves. Begin by thinking a bit in terms of traditional gendered presentation and societal roles, like in the uncomfortable image below. In the lesbian community, those stereotypically feminine and… Continue reading
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The Narcissistic Mother
Here is the translation of the text by Hungarian blogger Viki Bihari: The truly terrifying thing about a narcissistic mother is that she is your biggest opponent.It is absolutely incomprehensible, but she is always cheering for the opposing team.If someone has hurt you, she takes a liking to them and conspires with them just so… Continue reading
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Texting while Recovering from COVID
My thanks to the stranger who, out of the blue, received the below text message from an unknown phone number and kindly chose not to reply. “Tom – I cannot believe your number popped into my draft text messages as I tried to text Todd. It’s been several years but I still think about you. … Continue reading
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Art
Sharing about their time together, my younger Son expressed his feelings about a visit to an art museum with his Brother. He specifically had strong feelings about interpreting the modern art pieces: “The artist is putting all of the work onto you!” my Son said. I laughed. Then, his statement set off a chain of… Continue reading
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Chapter 0: Here we are!
Thank You for your time, however long you will share it with me. Thank You for the grace you will bring. Please know what you read here represents only me…and quite possibly only me and only on the day I wrote it. See, I keep learning, slowly, and I don’t interpret my world the same… Continue reading
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Chapter I: The Catalyst
On September 26, 2023, I read a Reuters.com article that was the final push for why I established this internet corner for my writings. There had been an earlier, similar article on BBC, and that was the water for my dormant little seed of writing; the seed which has ultimately been within me for a… Continue reading
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Chapter II: The Mother Who Cost Me My Daughter
Oh, such a tempting title, but a very thorny one. The bold expression first soothes the devastated Mother in me, but then also tugs on the parts of me which have cultivated appreciation for how complex relationships are and how I do not wish to engage in the divisive behaviors from which I continue to… Continue reading
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