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I’m Not Lonely
Last fall I joined a major university research project on emotions. It was administered via an app that was already on my phone from attending an executive course at that university earlier in the year, so it was easy. For eight consecutive weeks that eventually extended to twelve, twice a day I rated the degree… Continue reading
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Don’t Assume Malicious where Ignorance will Do
I keep reading about people in their 20s and 30s becoming estranged from one or more parent and that’s understandable, is their choice, and likely a very wise one. Where I diverge from them is I am not convinced all of these parents getting left behind are toxic, gaslighting, or narcissistic. I think there is… Continue reading
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Vegetarian off the Beaten Path
In 2013, I began discovering the knowledgeable vegetarian and vegan communities scattered in hidden parts of cities; often in places one may think twice about going. At that time, I had been a vegetarian for a decade and appreciated the creative ways people approached living without animal flesh. It’s hard enough to run a restaurant;… Continue reading
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Breaking the Habit
“I am not here to fix anyone. I am here to see them as they are.” Ram Dass Hi, I’m an over-functioning asshole. I probably would seem less of a jerk if I didn’t step into spaces I didn’t need to, but I have a baseline programming that makes me feel very unsafe when I… Continue reading
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Why I Love the DMV
No, not the Department of Motor Vehicles, though they are hard-working individuals with a minute-by-minute test in patience. I am referring to the National Capital Beltway area, also referred to as Washington DC Metro. The District of Columbia and adjacent portions of Maryland and Virginia form the DMV the locals know and love. It doesn’t… Continue reading
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So now What?
I feel like I have been on that old carnival ride that spins its riders around so fast their backs stick to the circular wall and then the bottom is dropped from below their feet. Centrifuge. Yes. That’s it. I’m not talking about the modern see-through ones decorated with lights and outfitted with safety features… Continue reading
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Nature, our Teacher
Go on a walk today and share a photo of something that catches your eye. This morning, I got to witness a phenomenon I hadn’t seen before. The overnight raindrops still held on individual tree leaves up high, were interrupted by the morning wind. As if falling from the sky, the wind displaced the raindrops… Continue reading
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The Rules of Silence
“Shame loves secrecy. Shame derives its power from being unspeakable. When something shameful happens to us and we keep it locked up, it festers and grows. It eats us alive from the inside.” Brené Brown For as long as I can remember, I’ve carried a heavy, exhausting feeling: I am in trouble. It didn’t matter… Continue reading
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The Physics of Compliance
I had a tough weekend and it simply continues. I thought I was ready for some LGBTQ community socializing in a no-pressure environment and as it turns out, I was absolutely not. …and that threw me into the deep end. Instead of taking advantage of some organic opportunities to make new friends, I did not… Continue reading
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I am glad you are here. If this is the first time you are visiting this site, the following is a quick orientation. To read a single-perspective account of a Family’s complicated history from old Hungary to the highly-nuanced United States, please look for chapter numbering (zero to nine); the chapters build on one-another in numerical order. No chapter is meant to be a standalone one. There are also titles without a chapter designation; those are short writings about a broad range of seemingly random topics. Thank You for arriving with lovingkindness.
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