#badmother
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Don’t Assume Malicious where Ignorance will Do
I keep reading about people in their 20s and 30s becoming estranged from one or more parent and that’s understandable, is their choice, and likely a very wise one. Where I diverge from them is I am not convinced all of these parents getting left behind are toxic, gaslighting, or narcissistic. I think there is… Continue reading
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Private School vs College Savings
Despite overhearing my Mother in 2022 tell her Friends I made $500K per year, I have actually never said nor made anything close to that. It happened at my Mother’s 70th Birthday Party weekend my Wife and I threw for my Mother and her Friends at a Ritz-Carlton hotel, for which we paid entirely with… Continue reading
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Art
Sharing about their time together, my younger Son expressed his feelings about a visit to an art museum with his Brother. He specifically had strong feelings about interpreting the modern art pieces: “The artist is putting all of the work onto you!” my Son said. I laughed. Then, his statement set off a chain of… Continue reading
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Chapter II: The Mother Who Cost Me My Daughter
Oh, such a tempting title, but a very thorny one. The bold expression first soothes the devastated Mother in me, but then also tugs on the parts of me which have cultivated appreciation for how complex relationships are and how I do not wish to engage in the divisive behaviors from which I continue to… Continue reading
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Chapter IV: My Maternal Grandparents
Using the excuse of continuing by year of birth, I am feeling very grateful, yet heartbroken to write about my Mother’s Father, my favorite person in my entire childhood. He was born in 1920, in a village on The Hungarian Plains, south of Miskolc, and rich in his heart. While I don’t know this about… Continue reading
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Chapter VII Part 3: My Mother Continued. Yes, still.
If you are still reading and have been in this for the long haul, Thank You! This is not a short story, as it involves the many facets of complicated humans. There are many layers and many perspectives, and conflicting accounts don’t invalidate any of those layers and perspectives. I’m not writing about good vs… Continue reading
One More Perspective 