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The Narcissistic Mother
Here is the translation of the text by Hungarian blogger Viki Bihari: The truly terrifying thing about a narcissistic mother is that she is your biggest opponent.It is absolutely incomprehensible, but she is always cheering for the opposing team.If someone has hurt you, she takes a liking to them and conspires with them just so Continue reading
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Last Cleaning
Thirteen years ago I moved into this house with so much love, hope, overwhelm, relief and pride. In 2012 we had moved from Oklahoma to Washington DC Metro, and I felt like I was released from purgatory. I breathed differently, I moved about differently. I had left the incessant “You’re not from around here, are Continue reading
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Private School vs College Savings
Despite overhearing my Mother in 2022 tell her Friends I made $500K per year, I have actually never said nor made anything close to that. It happened at my Mother’s 70th Birthday Party weekend my Wife and I threw for my Mother and her Friends at a Ritz-Carlton hotel, for which we paid entirely with Continue reading
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I don’t have to Love your Dog (or Cat)
Before you, Dear Reader, mentally pulverize me, please know I adored our Family’s Great Dane with all my heart. Her 168-pound presence was full of gentleness and grace. She grew alongside my Children, with each one getting to cuddle ample of her as they all sat in a single cluster, watching television. I still miss Continue reading
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The Art of the First-strike Narrative
“Falsehood flies, and truth comes limping after it.” Jonathan Swift, 1710 Rounding out eighteen-month old topics in my writing queue is this subject very painfully real to me. Rather than waiting for an apropos time to pursue this subject, I thought I’d enlist some help. It’s more important to me that I express this observation Continue reading
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The Shadow Side of Online Therapy
In recent years I have become sensitized to the double-edged nature of online therapy. I had this title and a few paragraphs in my draft writings for the last eighteen months. Today, I decided to see what Gemini would produce on the subject. My promt to Gemini 2.5 Pro: Explore The Shadow Side of Online Continue reading
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Social Media is the Matrix
For a number of months, I’ve had this title as a draft idea upon which to expand. I’d return to it from time to time, write a little, then get pulled away by something more emotionally compelling. Then, I had an idea. I know what I want to say; let’s see what Gemini Pro 2.5 Continue reading
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“I’d rather you were dead than a faggot!”
The title is a quote from the classic movie American Beauty. “I’d rather you were dead than a faggot!” are the gutting words retired Marine Corps Colonel Frank Fitts said to his own Son out of suspicion the teen may be gay. The plot twist? By the end of the movie we learn deeply homophobic Continue reading
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The Epiphany
For over a month, a Family member has been recovering from an acute illness and we’ve rallied around our Patient, while often fumbling through questions around what actually constitutes help vs what only makes us, the powerless bystanders, feel better. The early days in the hospital were straightforward; weeks later, we’re out of emergency mode, Continue reading
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The Bigger Jar
The world goes on whether we are living in it or not. The sun rises whether we have the wherewithal to raise our heads or not. Let’s do a whirlwind tour through select parts of my life: – At age 2, I was told I had to be moved to the 3-year old class because Continue reading
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I am glad you are here. If this is the first time you are visiting this site, the following is a quick orientation. To read a single-perspective account of a Family’s complicated history from old Hungary to the highly-nuanced United States, please look for chapter numbering (zero to nine); the chapters build on one-another in numerical order. No chapter is meant to be a standalone one. There are also titles without a chapter designation; those are short writings about a broad range of seemingly random topics. Thank You for arriving with lovingkindness.
One More Perspective 