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Texting while Recovering from COVID
My thanks to the stranger who, out of the blue, received the below text message from an unknown phone number and kindly chose not to reply. “Tom – I cannot believe your number popped into my draft text messages as I tried to text Todd. It’s been several years but I still think about you. … Continue reading
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Psychological Protection
This week someone, listening to me describe a past situation, mentioned “it sounds like you didn’t have any protection.” It was one of those moments where my brain came to a screeching halt, but my gut said I needed to pursue. I spent a few moments unresponsive. Seeing my stunned expression, the person said a… Continue reading
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The Day after Mother’s Day
We have an older friend who is slipping into dementia. We visited her recently and she was keenly struggling with her short-term memory, but was sharp as a tack regarding many other things. She mentioned she talks to her Daughter every day (which we knew was not likely because of other circumstances), but she went… Continue reading
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All the People I Blame
Well, that’s a trick title. I blame no one. That’s because I have learned to respect the power of the first six years of our lives on how we experience the world. I am, to a degree greater than I ever realized, a product of my original emotional environment. So are my Siblings. So are… Continue reading
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Art
Sharing about their time together, my younger Son expressed his feelings about a visit to an art museum with his Brother. He specifically had strong feelings about interpreting the modern art pieces: “The artist is putting all of the work onto you!” my Son said. I laughed. Then, his statement set off a chain of… Continue reading
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“You don’t Suffer Fools”
Professionally, I have benefitted greatly from the Mentors who generously gave of their time, their experience, and in many cases I’m confident, they gave of their patience in my mentoring meetings with them. Through these Mentors, I have learned insights into organizational dynamics, the nature of leadership, the value of relationships, people’s capacity for organizational… Continue reading
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Let it Snow
It’s a rainy Wednesday morning reminding us it is September. Though it would be easier to stay at home on a rainy day, I had mentally and logistically prepared to go into the office. Having bought excellent rain gear for a March trip to London, the rain was not a good enough excuse to do… Continue reading
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Grief
“I sat with my anger long enough until she told me her real name was grief.” C.S. Lewis On first look, I am wholly unqualified to write about grief, grieving. I lack the formal education and credentials, and everyone biologically closest to me is alive. Fair enough! In my effort to loop back and revisit… Continue reading
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That Only Works in the English Language
I grew up speaking the Hungarian language and forced to pretend I was learning Russian. До свидания! I also inherited my Father’s appreciation of the German language, so I have been dabbling in the study of it my entire life. I love how the German language sounds, and its rules feel very familiar, as it… Continue reading
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I am glad you are here. If this is the first time you are visiting this site, the following is a quick orientation. To read a single-perspective account of a Family’s complicated history from old Hungary to the highly-nuanced United States, please look for chapter numbering (zero to nine); the chapters build on one-another in numerical order. No chapter is meant to be a standalone one. There are also titles without a chapter designation; those are short writings about a broad range of seemingly random topics. Thank You for arriving with lovingkindness.
One More Perspective 